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Dating
articles by Dating Legend
Flirting Body Language: Art of non-verbal
communication
Body language is the way of sending signals
to the other person by the way you walk,
talk, and project your energy. Body language
is all about your presence, i.e. the EFFECT
you are making on other person's mind.
Women are attracted to the man who knows
what he wants and is confident with himself,
who oozes confidence from every inch of his
skin and follows through with action.
Elements of body language:
1. Posture
2. Smile
3. Eye contact
4. Facial Expressions
5. Your way of doing different things
Voice Tonality also plays a key role in your
success with women. It doesn't matter what
you are saying, but what REALLY matters is
how you are saying it. You can talk about
the boring thing that would bore her and can
still get an incredible response... because
of the WAY you say it and the way you
NONVERBALLY communicate your sexual
attraction.
GOLDEN RULE: Speak slowly, surely and
more deeply. All women love a very slow,
deep speaking voice. Women find this to be
very sexy and very attractive.
Getting started to get your body language
perfect
Tips from the Top
Imitate the top performers in every field.
They'll teach you how to be a success in
your field. Let me explain this to you with
an example.
Entertainer Dick Cavett had a little trick
when he was starting out to show business.
Just before he was about to go onstage, he'd
look in a mirror and pretend he was Bob
Hope. He'd imitate Hope's air of confidence,
the way he carried himself, so that some of
that self-assurance would rub off on him.
You can do that in your field. Pick out
people who are really good and try to
imitate them.
GOLDEN RULE: Always act the way as
your hero will act in that particular
situation.
Body Language Basics
Keep your body open. That means keeping your
arms down by your sides, not crossed over
your body as a buffer. Before he took some
pointers from Glass, Tim Cowgill, 46, was
shutting people out by his body's signals.
"I would close my arms across my front," he
says, "and back myself up against a wall."
And 41-year-old Deborah Garrett says she
wasn't getting close to people, either —
figuratively or literally. "I kept my
distance, clutching a glass to keep
something between me and others."
Reflect self-confidence. A poised
presentation invites others to treat you
with respect. Stand up straight, but not to
the point of looking stiff. When sitting,
keep a straight back to avoid a sloppy
slouch. And when walking, move
self-confidently at a steady pace — not too
fast or too slow — with your arms swinging
freely at your sides.
Consider "respectful" touching. An
appropriate, gracious touch — on the arm,
for example — is unlikely to offend, but can
serve as a friendly, bonding gesture.
Relax your face. Your face is responsible
for about 75 percent of nonverbal
communication, according to Glass. A
furrowed forehead, for example, might be
construed as critical. For a positive look
that doesn't intimidate, release the tension
in your forehead, while also relaxing the
muscles around your eyes, mouth and nose.
And smile — a genuine smile — with some
teeth showing.
Make consistent eye contact. To make a
connection, look at a person's face while
you're engaged in conversation, instead of
glancing around as if looking for
alternative entertainment. In other words,
show that you're interested.
Don't be shy. "Shy people are selfish
people," according to Glass. "It's not all
about you. Focus more on being interested —
not interesting— and your mind-set will move
away from how awkward you might be feeling."
DONT GET self-conscious. Remember,
self-consciousness is opposite of
self-confidence.
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